The First Mother's Day Without Her

Mother’s Day is a time we celebrate those who devoted their lives to caring for us, and for bringing us into the world. But it can also be a solemn reminder after the passing of your mother. The loss of a parent is always difficult. But a holiday that is meant to honor and cherish them can also bring feelings of grief. What can you do to honor them on a day that should be dedicated to someone so devoted to making you thrive?

Spend Time With Your Siblings or Father

If you have siblings or your father is still alive, spend time with them on Mother’s Day. Reminisce the fond memories together, and be there for each other. Remember that everyone grieves differently. But being together with loved ones to support each other can be healing. 

Spend Time With Your Children or Spouse

If you have children yourself, take time to be with your family. Spend the day making memories with your kids. Spend time with your spouse. Try to find joy with the loved ones you can surround yourself with today. Your mother would want you to celebrate with them. Have a good day spending time with those dearest to you, and celebrate the type of parent you were able to become, because of the effort your mother has put into raising you.

Visit Her Resting Place

Trips to the cemetery are not uncommon on Mother’s Day. Visiting the cemetery can be healing. Some people might find it helpful to talk to a parent at their resting place, it can help create a sense of closure and acceptance. You may even want to make a day of it. Some cemeteries will allow families to have a picnic on the grounds. Check with the cemetery before going for the day.

Go Through Photo Albums

Looking through photos can be a great way to remember fond moments with your mother. Look back on old family photos, vacations from years past, and all the holidays together. Share these photos with your loved ones, and reminisce together.
Mother’s Day is often a holiday for arts and crafts. Gather siblings or your children and create a Mother’s Day Scrapbook to remember all the good times, and to create something new and beautiful together. 

The author of this post is not a professional therapist or counselor. For more personalized grief care, find a grief counselor that is right for you. For our Grief Resource Center, written by Dr. Bill Webster, click here. 
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