Delivering a Eulogy - Public Speaking Tips

By: Matthew Funeral Home
Monday, September 22, 2025

If you are asked to deliver a eulogy at a funeral or memorial service, it can be important to prepare yourself. If you are not confident in your ability to speak to a crowd or are worried about tears during the funeral, this article is a guide for you. Public speaking isn’t easy for everyone, especially in emotional situations, such as a funeral.

Write Out Your Eulogy

Writing out your speech will let you have a reference guide to keep you going. It also allows you to plan out what you want to say. Feel free to refer back to your paper or read directly from it if you need. And, if you get too emotional, you can ask a loved one to read your copy in your stead.

Practice Your Speech

Practicing your speech will help you overcome the more emotional beats and get you to be more confident in your words. Reading it aloud can also help you edit any grammar issues or awkward sentences. Consider reading it out to a trusted loved one if you need help with it. 

Take Your Time

It is not a race to finish what you wrote, even if you are uncomfortable with public speaking. Take your time, and speak clearly. If you find yourself reading too fast or stumbling over words, pause and take a deep breath. 

Don’t Be Afraid to Be Vulnerable

Vulnerability in a eulogy is expected. Don’t be afraid to speak from the heart or to cry during the eulogy. Share treasured memories of your loved one. Everyone is there grieving together. It is OK to get emotional during your speech. If you are afraid of breaking down at certain emotional moments of your speech, practicing can help. Pay attention to more personal moments, and where you tend to get choked up. 

 

For over 50 years, Matthew Funeral Home has been serving the Staten Island community. We can help with almost every aspect of your loved one’s memorial service. Our family is here to serve yours, every step of the way.

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